I feel to write on the lessons I have learned from an experience that I went through recently. I will not detail the event out of respect for those involved, but I will say this:
We have all had those experiences where we wish we would have said no. We have all had those experiences where we later learned that we were glad that we said no. Sometimes we have to say no. Even when it hurts us to do so. Even when we feel it is offensive to do so. The motivation must always be love-not just in saying no, but in everything we do.
We must say no because we care-because we love ourselves, our family, our friends, and even those to whom we are saying no.
We must say no out of respect for ourselves and others.
Sometimes saying no can seem selfish or uncaring, but when saying yes compromises your time, health, money or beliefs, as well as that of your family and friends, then it is time to say no.
There is a difference between compromise and sacrifice.
Compromise comes about from coercion, from pressure, from being placed in a position of disadvantage. In essence, compromise happens when you are pressured into saying yes when all along you wanted to say no.
Sacrifice happens when you unselfishly give of yourself with no thought of reward. It is to give of your time, money, etc. (Not so much sacrificing your beliefs-beliefs often fuel sacrifice.)
Although in both instances time, health, or money may be given up to achieve the goal, compromise will never exist where an earnest sacrifice has been made. Everyone is rewarded, whether spiritually, emotionally, physically or otherwise.
Saying no at the appropriate times strengthens our character. It allows us to love more fully and correctly. We cannot properly love ourselves and others if we do not have the character to say no when it compromises ourselves and others.
It is good to say no.
It is healthy to say no.
It is right to say no.
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